You are right, this is such an important part of creating happiness, which then gives you space to help other people find happiness.

I like your Notice – Flip the Coin – Reflect process. When I’m faced with a day that is draining me, I use something I learned from Martha Beck. I write down the things I have on my to do list, then I decide how each particular task makes me feel at a deep “essential” level. I take the tasks that don’t make me feel good and I try to see how I can “bag them, better them, or barter them”.

I “bag it” if I truly don’t need to do it – if it isn’t actually moving me toward a goal.

If I can’t bag it, I try to “better it” by making it more fun (e.g. catching up on email while getting a pedicure).

If that isn’t possible, I try to “barter it” by getting someone else to do it in exchange for something I like to do.

Thanks for giving me a new method to try!

Caryn
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